I have a Virtual Mentor, Michael Hyatt. He makes me think twice about stuff that matters. In a recent post entitled “The Difference Between Trying and Doing,” he said Tony Robbins once gave some advice to a woman who was struggling in her marriage.
“She stood up in one of his seminars to ask a question. She complained that she had “tried everything” to improve her relationship with her husband but nothing had changed.
Tony went on to make a distinction that I think is vitally important. He asked the woman to try to pick up the chair she was sitting in. She turned around and picked up the chair.
Tony said, “No, you picked it up. I said try to pick it up.”
The woman looked confused. Tony reiterated, “Try to pick it up.” The woman just stood there, not knowing what to do.
Tony continued, “No, now you’re not picking it up. I said try to pick it up.” Again, she picked up the chair.
Again, Tony, said, “No, you picked up the chair. I asked you to try and pick it up. You either pick it up, you don’t pick it up, or you try to pick it up.”
The point is that when we say we are trying we don’t really have to do anything. It also provides us with an excuse for why we didn’t accomplish the outcome we say we want.
Do you understand the difference? You either do something or you don’t do it. Trying is really the same as not doing it. It just makes it easier for us to let ourselves off the hook when we fail.
It made me stop and think…what am I “trying” to do? Wouldn’t it be better to ask, “What am I committed to doing? I’m trying to get in shape? Really? Or am I just trying? I’m trying to please my wife? Really? Or am I just trying to please my wife…and then complain about her to my inner self and others.
Bottom line…maybe it’s time to quit trying and just do it.
Romans 12:10, “Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord.”