I have been working with families since the mid-seventies. Over this period, I have met with many women whose stories break my heart. They tell of an absent father either by physical absence or emotional absence.
In a recent publication on current statistics it is noted that 92% of the children in our inner cities do not have a father involved in their lives. We blame all the violence in our inner cities on many things but fail to address this very sad statistic.
Let’s look at the basics of the Father Daughter relationship.
- The father relationship with his daughter is crucial for her health.
- Not only is a father the most important man in her life, but to every girl her dad is her first love.
The unique dynamic:
- There is a love and protectiveness that a dad feels towards his daughter that is different from what he feels toward his son.
- There is tenderness in the father-daughter relationship.
- There is a respect that a girl is meant to have from her father from the very beginning of her life.
- A daughter perceives her dad to be her hero.
- What does your daughter look for in you that causes you to be her hero?
Time: Special moments with just the two of you. How about a date night with your daughter?
Eye Contact: Face to face when connecting.
Availability: Even when your busy, take time to be available. (They grow up fast!)
A Listening Ear: Women need to be heard and listened to. This starts at a very early age. If a little girl feels connected to her dad this helps her in her emotional and physical developmental journey.
Men: Being a hero to your daughter is about having strong character, paying attention to her, communicating with her, and letting her know she is your “Princess.”